Grace was beautiful. She had my husband’s lips and my big toe. We told her how much we loved her and how sorry we were. Our families got to see her, too, and a priest came to our hospital room to bless her. Charles Lane of the Washington Post on his son Jonathan: My wife held Jonathan for a long while. I hesitated to do so. At the urging of the nurses and my wife, I summoned the courage to cradle Jonathan’s body, long enough to get a good look at his face and to muse how much he looked like his brother -- then say goodbye. I am glad that my love for him overcame my fear of the dead. We, like the Santorums, took a photograph of the baby -- lying, as if asleep, in my wife’s arms. We have a framed copy in our bedroom. It’s beautiful. Jonathan’s body was prepared according to Jewish law, including circumcision, and buried after a religious service. Clergy and friends gathered at our home to support us. I regret that, unlike the Santorums, who presented the body of their child to their children, we did not show Jonathan’s body to our other son, who was six years old at the time. When I told him what had happened, his first question was, “Well, where is the baby?” I tried to explain what a morgue is, and why the baby went there. It was awkward and unsatisfactory P.S. Don't forget to attend the 39th Annual March for Life in DC on January 23rd.
Saturday, January 7, 2012
It's good that we are finally having this conversation. The Santorum Family gift to our broken nation in this anniversary month. Jessica Heslam of the Boston Herald remembering her daughter Grace Virginia: We were gently encouraged to hold our stillborn baby. I was terrified. I had no idea what to expect. No idea what my baby would look like. How on earth could I hold a child whose smile and cries I would never see or hear? One of the nurses swaddled my daughter and put her in my arms — an act for which I am eternally grateful. Despite our fears and trepidation, the nurse assured us that holding our baby daughter would help us through our ordeal. As painful as it might seem, it would help us heal.